Job Offers – Tips for Parents & Family to Help Their Student with the Decision-Making Process

As Carnegie Mellon students complete their summer internships, many will receive invitations to return to the employer for another summer internship or as a full-time employee. This offer can be a source of joy and stress. The Career and Professional Development Center (CPDC) can assist your student in the offer-evaluation process, and we want to prepare you with information to share with your student when they seek your input.

Reasons Why Students Accept Jobs

The CPDC surveyed students in the spring of 2018 as to why they accepted a job/internship offer. The three most cited reasons were:

1. Company Culture/People: Who you interact with on a daily basis and the environment in which you perform your work highly impact job satisfaction. A 2014 Global Talent study (n=200,000) by Boston Consulting Group identified the key factors for job happiness. The four most popular reasons were related to one’s work environment and the people with whom one would interact on a daily basis. Working for an organization that supports its employees while providing challenging growth opportunities is something we want for our students in their careers.

2. Projects/Job Function: It is important for your student to consider the projects and type of work they will be asked to perform. Will the work projects challenge your student and allow them to grow professionally? Does your student find the work interesting and meaningful? A work environment that offers free lunches, unlimited vacation, performance bonuses, or other benefits won’t matter at all if your student dislikes the day-to-day job functions.

3. Industry of Interest: LinkedIn looked back at 20 years of data and noted that Millennials will have an average of four job changes in their first decade after graduation (Gen Xers averaged two changes). Knowing that one’s employer will likely change (possibly several times) over the coming 10 years, CMU students focus more on landing a good opportunity in their industry of interest. Focusing on securing a role in the preferred industry can take some of the stress off of the idea that one has to land a role with the mythical “perfect” or “dream” company.

Student Should Feel Confident with Their Decisions

Saying yes to one opportunity means saying no to other opportunities (at least for the immediate future). The feeling of losing out on an experience can cause students to doubt their decisions as they wonder, “What else is out there?”

Consider these tips to help students feel more confident in making their decisions:

A return offer after an internship comes with the good—and bad—parts of the opportunity. It is common for job seekers to focus on only the positives when considering a new role/employer. Remind your student that all employers and roles have their downsides – and one usually does not discover these shortcomings until working at the company. Students should not throw away a good opportunity just because their current role/employer had some downsides.

Internships provide students a 10-week glimpse into a potential job and employer. If your student is not excited about the prospect of spending more time at that job or employer, they should seriously heed that feeling. Encourage your student to be honest with themselves and not hold onto job offers that would not make them happy. This advice is particularly relevant for students who are considering a return internship offer – they have the opportunity to use future summers to explore other industries, jobs, and employers.

Support your student choosing the role and employer that is best for them – not necessarily the one you/friends/family think your student should accept. Remember, you don’t have to work there; your student does.

Encourage your student not to approach this choice as life-defining. Selecting a career path is a major life decision, but jobs will come and go. Support your student in finding a role that will allow them to grow professionally and work in an environment where they feel supported – in short, a role where they will be successful.

Carnegie Mellon Has an Offer Policy

The final piece of information the CPDC would like all parents and families to know about is CMU’s offer policy. The CPDC and its academic partners designed the policy to protect students from receiving unfair response deadlines from eager employers. If your student has received an offer with a very tight response timeline, please have them reach out to the CPDC. More details can be found here: CMU Offer Policy.


CPDC Career Consultants are available to help CMU students through the job decision-making process.

The employment decision-making process can feel overwhelming. And, just like you, we are here to support your student through this process. We encourage students to schedule time with a CPDC team member to review their offers and ask questions. Your student can schedule a meeting (in person, phone, or video) with a career consultant through their Handshake account.

Feel free to post a question here if you have any questions you’d like to ask the CPDC about the job offering process.

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